Diocese of Oxford

Letter from Dave Adams LLM

One year ago 7 people presented themselves before the Bishop for confirmation, a ceremony in which they publicly declare their faith.  Last month Lauren shared a little of what that meant for her.  She spoke with such enthusiasm and joy about the opportunity  to show the church and the world that she was committed to God.  “I just felt whole” she said … I now feel comfortable in my faith.”  “I love coming to church, it is a lovely, lovely place, so warm and welcoming.”

Things have changed for her since the confirmation.  Prayer is no longer forced.  Instead she shoots off ‘arrow prayers’ whenever she is moved to.  This feels “very natural”.  Not that there aren’t occasional doubts but now she knows that God is with her in her trials.  She has learned patience, knowing things will become clear later.

Two songs come to mind as I reflect on Lauren’s story.  Wannabe by The Spice Girls expressed the feelings of so many who long for a lasting relationship.  “I’ll tell you what I want, what I really, really want.” But what they really, really want comes with conditions.  Do we really know what we really, really want?  How many times do we feel let down, even betrayed, when what we thought we wanted doesn’t satisfy us.

There is a spiritual practice, sometimes called the “Welcome Prayer” that inspires an attitude of grateful acceptance for whatever life brings us, letting go of our need for control, affection or approval.  Lauren’s story reminded me of a hymn we occasionally sing that is based on Psalm 34:
Through all the changing scenes of life
in trouble and in joy
the praises of my God shall still
my heart and tongue employ.

So thank you, Lauren, for reminding us of what we really, really need.